Oral sex should only be used for the purpose of sexual stimulation, and not as a replacement of sexual organs. The woman’s mouth should never be used to replace the role of her vagina, but only to initiate or stimulate her husband’s body. While the man’s tongue should also never play the role of his penis to thrust into the woman’s vagina, but rather the man should only use his tongue to initiate or stimulate his wife’s clitoris and not for penetration.
In the same way a man can kiss his wife on her nose tip, mouth, eyes, neck, breast, thighs, in a similar manner he is allowed to kiss her genitalia for the purpose of sexual stimulation, not penetration. This is what is right within the confinements of the marriage bed, and nothing else. There are specific organs that are meant for sexual penetration, and the mouth is not one of them.
If you have never experienced the art of oral sex in your marriage, then you are missing out. Oral sex is an intimate, and enjoyable way to connect with your spouse. However, too many couples neglect their oral sex life, if they even have one, and it can be a point of contention and frustration for both spouses. If this is an issue for you read on for some tips on how to bring more intimacy and connection to your Christian marriage.
Is oral sex safe for Christian couples?
Most Christians will call you perverted when you bring up the subject of sex. We are accustomed to believing that sexual activity is sinful, while on the contrary, it’s a special gift for a couple (a man and a woman) from God. Yet the majority of Christian couples seek sexual knowledge from the wrong sources such as porn sites. Consequently, bringing strangers and the wrong experiences into the marriage bed.
The fact that you don’t agree with a concept, doesn’t make it wrong. In the same way, the fact that your pastor does not approve of certain things doesn’t prove them to be sinful. People disagree all the time on unnecessary matters, such as food, clothing, doctrine, and much more.
If you do not approve of oral sex, it doesn’t make it a perverted act, even the Bible approves it. Read Matthew 11:18-19, to see what Jesus taught about people’s perceptions concerning any matter.
Matthew 11:18 For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, 'He has a demon.' 11:19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, 'Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and "sinners." 'But wisdom is proved right by her actions."
What do the Bible and Christian teachings say about oral sex?
Is oral sex a sin?
The act of oral sex is intended to ignite intimacy, pleasure, and bonding. If you have not yet tried it in your marriage, consider talking about it with your spouse. You are probably wondering if oral sex is a sin. Here’s the deal: oral sex is not the same as anal sex, as this is forbidden and unnatural.
In marriage, the sex act is designed to express love, not just in the moment but over time. During oral sex, a person is expressing love to their spouse even if they are not in the mood to have sex. One of the ways married couples can show their love for each other is to enjoy each other’s bodies.
To find out whether oral sex is sinful or not we have to consider these few biblical principles. Is the act unnatural, is it selfish, is it healthy, and lastly is it forbidden in the Bible?
1. Is the act of oral sex natural or unnatural?
Unlike anal sex, oral sex is very natural, and the Bible gives instances where it is practiced in a Christian marriage without defiling the sacredness of the marriage bed. The book of Songs of Solomon and proverbs mentions a woman’s breast as the center of a man’s sexual pleasures. Therefore, there it is not unnatural or a sin for your husband to be obsessed with your beautiful breasts, or vagina, for sexual arousal.
Song of Solomon 7:7-8 Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine and the scent of your breath like apples…
A lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
Again, in the songs of Solomon, there is an imagery of a woman’s body portrayed in chapter 4:12, and verse 16. The garden that Solomon mentions is symbolic of a woman’s body or her genitals. In verse 12 he says that the garden is enclosed referring to the woman’s purity or her virginity. In verse 16, it is clear he was talking of the woman’s vagina, where he goes in to ‘eat’ its choicest fruits.
Song of Solomon 4:12
A garden locked is my sister, my bride, a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
Song of Solomon 4:16 [AMP version]
 [You have called me a garden, she said] Oh, I pray that the [cold] north wind and the [soft] south wind may blow upon my garden, that its spices may flow out [in abundance for you in whom my soul delights]. Let my beloved come into his garden and eat its choicest fruits.
2. Is it selfish?
No one should force their partner to a sexual act they have not consented to. If her conscience is not okay with this kind of sexual exploration, don’t put her under pressure to do it. Remember, the Bible encourages us to outdo each other in showing honor and kindness (Romans 12:10). Also, be kind to each other.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted…
Consider your spouse’s feelings and consciousness on the matter. Do not act out of selfishness, for that would be considered a sin.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus…
3. Is it forbidden in the Bible?
There is no specific verse in the whole Bible that forbids oral sex (specifically oral stimulation). However, using the biblical principle mentioned above, it is clear that the act is mutual and sinful unless you force your partner into it.
Many men have a hard time giving their wives oral sex. This can be for several reasons. They may feel it is unclean, or that it is a disgusting thing to do. The truth is that it really is an intimate thing. Many women desire it, and it is a great way to bring a little more excitement to your love life.
4. Is oral sex healthy?
The act should only be done under strict hygiene. The mouth contains many bacteria, while there might be issues if your partner has an STI, or UTI which is common in women. Moreover, the act should be refrained from during menstruation.
Some think oral stimulation is dirty. Allow me to ask you a simple but profound question. Is your mouth cleaner than your genitals? Imagine all the bacteria in your mouth, the bad smell, your decayed tooth, and the stuck food particles between your teeth. Yet, you still kiss with a lot of passion once you have brushed your teeth, and most often when you haven’t.
Oral sex is one of the safest sex acts you can engage in. The only drawback is that it is not a good idea to brush your teeth right before going down on your spouse’s genitals as that can cause tiny sores on your gum which can increase your chances of unnecessary infections.
Another reason is that the fluoride in toothpaste can burn the delicate tissue of the vagina or penis. If your mouth is burning during oral sex, you’ve brushed too soon. You may also want to gargle or rinse with an antibacterial mouthwash. Make it a practice to urinate after the act, to avoid bacterial infection.
I am scared to try oral sex, are oral sex techniques really necessary?
Many people are scared to try oral sex in their marriage because they think that it might be uncomfortable. Oral sex is often called a “gateway” to more intimate acts, but this doesn’t mean that it needs to be painful or uncomfortable. My advice to Christian couples is that, don’t be afraid to bring it up.
You might be worried that your spouse will think you are too sexual or weird but remember that you are married and you need to be intimate with each other.
There are oral sex techniques that are easy and fun. You can start out slow with mutual oral stimulation and build up to your favorite oral sex positions. The key to better oral is communication, so talk to your partner about what feels good and what you want to try! Use these oral sex techniques to show him/ her how much you love and enjoy his/ her body.
How to establish trust and boundaries around oral sex?
The key to having a satisfying, mutually beneficial, and ongoing oral sex experience is to have an open and honest conversation about what is okay and what is not okay for both partners. It is really about communicating about what feels good and what does not, what turns you on, what gets you going, and what you like and don’t like.
Remember, trust is the foundation of any marriage. The same is true for oral sex in marriage. It is important for you to talk about this with your spouse and to find out what is getting in the way.
Although oral sex is a term that is typically used to refer to sexual behaviors involving the mouth, it can also refer to genital stimulation via the mouth. Oral sex is not a new act. In fact, it’s been around for thousands of years and even recorded in scriptures. The act is described as an art that “pleases both the giver and receiver”.
How can we have more oral sex in our marriages?
With sex nowadays being such a taboo topic, most couples are often hesitant to talk about the frequency and type of sex they enjoy. Couples who engage in the act of oral sex (oral stimulation) often feel more connected with each other.
As much It can be used to stimulate your partner, there can be a lot of pressure to perform. Sometimes you just do not feel like it. Sometimes your partner just does not feel like it. But the fact is, it is an important part of a healthy marriage. So how can we have more oral sex in our marriages? First, you need to talk with your spouse. If you do not feel comfortable bringing it up, then you need to bring it up.
You need to tell your partner that you want to have more oral sex. You need to ask them what they like and what they don’t like. You need to talk about it. If your partner doesn’t feel the same way, then you need to talk about that. You need to talk about what you can do to make them feel more comfortable about it. If you don’t communicate, then you will never be able to have more oral sex in your marriage.
Oral sex rekindles Intimacy and creates magic.
Oral sex is one of the most intimate things you can experience with your spouse. It is a beautiful way to rekindle your love and bring the magic back into your marriage. Many people claim that oral sex is not for them, but when people are willing to shift their thinking about the act it can bring about a beautiful experience. Oral sex is a great way to connect with your spouse, and it is a huge turn-on for many people.
You can also use oral sex to show your spouse how much you appreciate his/ her body. When you do it in a way that is pleasing to your spouse, they will feel loved. The great thing about oral sex is that it doesn’t take a lot of time, is cheap, and can happen anywhere.
If you are having problems with your marriage, you may want to consider adding oral sex to your relationship. It will help you reconnect and remember why you love each other. Because of the intimacy, it can be a great way to help you rekindle the love you have for each other. Above all find fulfillment in Christ and not sex.
If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.
Oral sex is more than just giving your partner pleasure.
How often have you and your spouse sat down to have a real, honest conversation about sex? Most married people, especially Christians, have never actually sat down to have a conversation to share their sexual needs and desires. In fact, many married couples don’t talk about sex with each other at all! It is possible to enjoy a fulfilling sex life with your spouse even if you feel inadequate or inexperienced. Sex is a sacred gift for a couple.
When to consider oral sex.
It is important to remember that while oral sex is a great way to express love and intimacy, it is not the only way. It is also important to remember that using your mouth on your spouse’s genitals is not only an act of love and intimacy, but it is also an act of service and reverence. If you take the time to consider your spouse’s desires, needs, and preferences, you will find the process rewarding.
1. When your spouse is disabled.
Life is dynamic and so anything can happen at any stage of our lives. Your spouse might be involved in an accident or become sick rendering him ineffective in the marriage bed. This requires you to be patient as you pray for his/ her recovery.
Meanwhile, you might consider oral sex to avoid the temptation of infidelity. And if you truly care for your spouse, you will help him/ her with his/ her sexual urge, lest you lose her/ him in the long run when he/ she fails to exercise self-control.
2. When you agree on it.
As long as there is mutual consent about the matter, you can consider enjoying the act, it’s pleasurable.
3. When you are too busy to engage in sex.
As a couple, you may find it almost impossible to have sexual intimacy due to unavoidable circumstances within the marriage. A wonderful thing about oral sex is that it is easy to give, and it can be used as a way to connect with your spouse in a very intimate way – even when you are tired or distracted. It’s a great way to show your spouse that you love and care about them.
Oral sex can also be an important part of foreplay. Although it may be a more intimate activity, it is also something that can be done quickly. Whether you are in a situation where you don’t have much time to make love or you are feeling tired, oral sex can be an easy way to share pleasure with your spouse.
4. To help your wife attain orgasm.
As a loving Christian husband, you might find it a challenge to bring your wife to a climax due to health issues. And because you love her and want to give her please as love is a matter of giving, you should consider using oral sex to stimulate her genitals for her to attain orgasm. Also, consider dedicating the matter to God for Him to heal you.
5. When your wife delivers a child.
Most men are not able to exercise self-control, that is the reason why most are married in the first place. In such a case the wife should consider performing oral sex on her husband as she heals. This will prevent Satan from tempting him to go outside the marriage bed. Even though I would encourage every husband to be understanding and learn to control their vessel with honor. I also understand that not all Christian operate in the same grace.
…but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Romans 12:6a …gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them:
What are the benefits of oral sex?
Oral sex can be a very intimate, pleasurable, and bonding experience for a man and woman in a marriage. It can deepen their relationship and bring them closer together both emotionally and spiritually. Oral sex can also be a great way to express love and affection and to show your husband or wife that you love and treasure them. Whether or not you choose to engage in oral sex with your spouse, you can still reap the benefits of it.
Oral sex is an intimate act that both partners can enjoy. It is an act that can bring a lot of closeness and pleasure to a relationship. If you and your spouse are not engaging in oral sex, talk to them about it. Let them know you want to bring more pleasure and intimacy to your relationship.
It is a fact that most men love oral sex It is true that many women do as well. However, if you are reading this, chances are oral sex is not happening in your marriage. Maybe you are the one who does not like it. Maybe your spouse is the one who doesn’t like it. Maybe you want to try it but are not sure how to bring it up. Maybe you are wondering if you should even care about it.