In today’s world, with the acceptance of single-parent families and co-parenting, the concept of fatherhood is overlooked. The importance of a father in the life of a child is often debated. Nevertheless, fathers play a critical role in influencing and educating kids in their life to make them capable of living a beautiful life. They push them to achieve their goals in life and provide them with security.
The father acts as a role model to the kid and helps him develop good habits. This article will discuss why the father is important to a child and how he impacts his child.
That’s how God designed it.
God designed the institute of marriage to be a suitable environment to raise godly offspring. (Malachi 2:15b). A marriage consists of a man and a woman, and children are born into the family as a blessing to the couple from God.
God never intended any child to be raised by a single parent, but rather in a complete family. Divorce has never been on His agenda, because of the destruction it causes to innocent kids and the individuals involved. He declares in Malachi that He hates divorce. (Malachi 2:16).
To instruct the child in the Lord.
The Bible instructs both parents to bring up their children in the way of the LORD. The father as the head of the family as instituted by God and not the work of men has a greater responsibility to instructing his children in the Lord.
The Bible specifically instructs him to be considerate with his children lest he provokes them, and also to be on the forefront in disciplining and instructing them in the LORD. It’s only a Christian father who can achieve this as his heart is inclined to God. [Proverbs 22:6, Deuteronomy 6:6-9].
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
To mentor his child.
Every father has a special place in the heart of his child. He is the one who guides him, protects him, and also helps him to grow as a person. But that is not all a father does. A father is a role model for his child. Children need to see their fathers as role models if they are to learn how to be good people. A father can teach his child the value of hard work and determination.
He can show the child how to be responsible and how to face the challenges of life. A father can also show his family how to be good to one another. It is often said that a father is the most important person in the life of his child. Children need to have a good relationship with their fathers in order to grow up to be successful adults.
For example, as the first male role model in his son’s life, a father is the one who shows the child how to be a man. He learns how to be a good and faithful husband, provider, and leader. He learns how to be strong and confident. He learns how to take on responsibilities and be a leader. He learns how to take care of his family. He learns how to fight and protect his loved ones just as the father does.
Jesus taught that he did nothing on his own except what He saw His Father (God) doing. Meaning He emulated the Father in every aspect of His life and ministry. A man should be born again to be effective in administering his role as a father and a faithful follower of Jesus Christ
So Jesus said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of his own accord, but only what he sees the Father doing. For whatever the Father does, that the Son does likewise. For the Father loves the Son and shows him all that he himself is doing. And greater works than these will he show him, so that you may marvel.
Fatherly love is a strong feeling of care, protection, and devotion felt by a father for his children. It is a feeling that is so strong that it influences their actions, words, and thoughts. Fathers have the ability to make their children feel like they can do anything. They let their children know that no matter what happens, they can count on them to be there.
A father’s love gives their children a sense of security and self-confidence. It has been shown that children who feel loved by their fathers enjoy higher self-esteem, fewer behavioral problems, and are more successful in school.
Help to shape his perception.
The father helps to shape the child’s perception of life as a whole, to teach him to be independent, which is very important for the kid in the future. His input in the child’s life helps the kid to learn to appreciate his identity, environment, and value life as a gift from God.
These skills will help the child cope with life challenges as they will be aware that their current circumstance doesn’t define who they are in Christ. Instead of fleeing from challenges, they will be bold enough to face them and find a solution to the same, as their view of life is not boxed. The child will have a renewed mindset.
Protects a child from identity crises.
Children need protection from identity crises. Identity crises are a natural process in life, and it is the discovery of who you are and the development of your personality. This can be overwhelming to a child and can be hard to deal with. Having both parents plays a very important role in protecting a child from identity crises as it creates a conducive environment for the child to discover who they are in Christ and as a person and their purpose in life.
I was raised by stepparents because my stepdad and my biological mom had divorced. Later on, my step-parents also divorced, and eventually, we lived with our biological mom (as a single mother). Throughout my life, as I was trying to figure out who I am, I was always disturbed by the thought of having no clue why I behaved the way I did because I never resemble or behaved like any of my siblings.
I later realized we were not of the same biological father, and this made me go through an identity crisis, as I really wanted to know who my biological father was. I believed that this would help me answer all the crazy but vital questions I had. Honesty, no child needs to go through this painful process. Children should live with both parents, that’s why there is a need to protect the family structure.
Feminism doesn’t work.
Feminism does not work. I’m sorry, but it doesn’t. Feminism is one of the greatest failures of our time. When you take the time to look at the world through the lens of feminism, you can’t help but notice that things are not getting better. In fact, they’re getting worse. Our society is becoming increasingly hostile towards men and masculinity, and it’s hurting our kids. It’s time for a change.
Feminism has become a dirty word, and it seems like it’s all because of a bunch of man-hating annoying women. But what does feminism really mean? Feminism means that women and men have equal rights. No, it doesn’t mean that women should dominate men. It doesn’t mean that men are bad, and it doesn’t mean that women are better than men.
Feminism was intended to mean that, in a perfect world, everybody would have an equal opportunity. The problem with feminism today is that they are actually making men and women more unequal, not more equal and this is destroying families.
Having both parents give children a more fulfilling life.
A survey conducted by the Pew Research Center shows that children who grow up with both biological parents are more likely to graduate high school or college, less likely to go to jail, and are less dependent on government welfare. The study compared the family structures of children and the outcomes of their lives when they became adults.
They found that children raised by married mothers and fathers are more likely to avoid poverty, have better educational outcomes, and have fewer behavioral problems. The study found that children raised by single mothers are almost twice as likely to be poor and are more likely to be involved in crime, abuse drugs, and be unemployed.
It is true that a father is just as important as a mother in the life of a child. A father is often an important role model for a boy. A boy will look up to his father for guidance and the father will show the boy how to treat others. Fathers will often teach their sons how to be a gentleman and how to treat a lady.
Single parenthood hurts children.
Parents play a vital role in the growth and development of children. The absence of one parent, whether it is the father or the mother, can have a negative impact on children. When a child does not receive adequate care and attention from their parents, it may result in negative behavior, such as aggressiveness, defiance, and delinquency.
In my previous article on the pros and cons of single parenthood, I clearly explained the adverse effect of this family structure on the lives of innocent children. The following were some of my findings;
Women raised by single mothers have a hard time adapting to family life and submitting to their husbands. This is because they are accustomed to making their own decisions without interference. Marriage appears to many of them to be oppressive and confining. They want to be self-sufficient.
Children raised by single mothers, particularly girls, have a stronger desire to have a father figure in their life. This has a stronger impact on them. The majority of these ladies go into relationships with their partners in the hopes of finding a father figure. Regrettably, they rarely find what they are looking for.
Single parents have less time to spend with their children because they have to work to support their families. Single parents have no backup. No help when things get tough. They are on their own. They have to do everything from making sure the child gets to school on time to pay the bills. And if they work outside the house, they have to pay for child care.
To protect kids from political indoctrination.
Today’s society is messed-up. The mainstream media is pushing its narrative of gender fluidity on children through woke kids’ shows. They are encouraging kids to accept the incorrect ideologies of their sexuality and identity. With a Christian father in the home, some of these stupid gender narratives will be easily kicked out of the kids’ lives hence, protecting them.
Any good father will not tolerate his son dressing or behaving like a girl, nor his daughter doing the same. He will condemn that foolishness to save his children. I don’t mean that mothers are not good at this. My point is that a good family must consist of a father and a mother. The mainstream media targets nuclear families and conservative Christian values on the family. They intend to destroy the traditional family structure by encouraging single motherhood and same-sex marriage.
A father is a figure who plays a vital role in the life of his child. He helps to influence and instruct the kid in the way he should live. He also protects him from negative influences and guides him towards the right path. A father’s love, support, and guidance are just some of the many reasons that children need their fathers.