A biblical guide to overcome sexual desires towards the same-sex.
I remember a few years ago when I was on campus pursuing my bachelor’s degree in chemistry when I first had this unusual desire for the same sex. At this moment in life, I was a faithful believer in Jesus Christ and deeply rooted in His word. Why then did I have these sinful desires?
As I shared previously that I used to be a porn addict and as a result practiced bestiality while in grades 7 and 8. This same spirit was trying hard to destroy the person I had become in Christ. The enemy was always trying to find an opportunity to cause me to fall into sin; hence, giving him a legal right of operation in my life.
I never had many friends, except two brothers who I met on the same campus. So it happened one time after my industrial attachment in my third year, that my friend and I were allocated the same room. I had previously lived with other male roommates and never had an even thought or desire towards them.
We were always close with this friend, prayed, and served God faithfully together. However, on this specific day, something strange happened. I was in the room and suddenly I started hearing weird voices and experiencing a strange feeling towards my friend. At first, I didn’t know what it was. Then, the thing persisted for a whole week; however, by the grace of God and the leading of The Holy Spirit I overcame it.
I never responded to the voices, thoughts, and feelings. Instead, I shook it off every time it emerged, and never gave it any attention. That is how I overcame it. The word of God in me gave me the ability and wisdom to deal with the enemy’s wicked strategy to put me in bondage.
What is surprising, is that I never told my friend about it. This is the first time I am sharing this. I believe the hostel room we were allocated was the problem. It is possible that its previous occupants were homosexuals; hence, affecting its spiritual environment. This is true because the thoughts began when we first occupied the room. There was a strange presence in that room. It is obvious it was not of God, but a demonic one.
This was strange as I had never thought of or had previous feelings towards the same sex. Homosexuality is a demonic spirit of oppression; whose mandate is to pervert men and women against God’s design of sex. Hence, destroying the integrity of the family and marriage foundation.
Something crazy about the evil thoughts is that they used to start from almost nothing and then build up to a crescendo in seconds. It was as if someone was forcing me to act against my will. I could easily relate this force to the same entity that used to drag me to watch porn and be perverted. Trust me on this; It is the same spirit; the spirit of Jezebel in charge of all sexual perversions and wickedness. Beware!
I had previously encountered the same spirits in my dreams; as they would try to play the role of a spiritual spouse by paralyzing me in my sleep. This happens more often than we can think. That’s why it is important to put on Jesus Christ as your shield.
How to overcome same-sex desires and thoughts.
Thank God I was and still am a born-again Christian and a student of the Word of God. Otherwise, I don’t know how I could have overcome these wicked thoughts. Christ is my greatest treasure; as I have seen Him deliver me from every fowler’s snare, and redeem my soul from the pit for His glory.
The greatest battle is in our minds. That is what the enemy targets through evil thoughts; which the Bible refers to as flaming darts. Therefore, put on the shield of faith by which you can quench all the flaming arrows of the evil one (Ephesians 6:16).
Paul made it clear in 2 Corinthians 10:3-5, when he said, “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have the divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
We are waging war against evil thoughts; which he refers to as arguments, reasoning, theories, speculations, and every lofty thing that is contrary to the Word of God. The devil loves playing mind tricks by distorting the Word of God. Remember, he is the father of all lies and in him, there is no truth- even though he pretends to be the angel of light. A snake is still a snake despite it shading its skin.
Again, Apostle Paul inspired by the Holy Spirit, exhorts us in Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your minds, that you may prove what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” We are already warned from buying into the social norm of the day concerning same-sex marriage, and the futility of worldly wisdom and knowledge. We are the children of light.
We are not to be conformed to this world’s patterns. Instead, we are to be conformed into the image and likeness of Christ, for that is what God predestined us– who are in Christ – to become. “For those He predestined He also called; and those whom He called He also justified; and those whom He justified He also glorified.” (Romans 8:29-30).