Erotic dreams are very common and the symbolic meaning may differ greatly based on the context of your dream.
It is good to consider the type of sex, how it is being done, and with whom you are involved. I will cover different aspects of intimate dreams including the spiritual meaning of sleeping with a man in a dream.
The symbolism of sex dreams may indicate spiritual defilement and can also symbolize a covenant; uniting to become one through sex in your dream. The imagery of sex in a dream is meant to symbolize an aspect of your personality.
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“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4, ESV)
I remember God revealing to me dreams about other people who were having sex or being taken advantage of sexually.
At first, I thought of the symbolism literally, however, God prompted me to dig into His word and realized the symbolism of sexual dreams meant ‘defilement’ and was also a picture of uniting to become one.
Are spiritual spouses mentioned in the Bible?
There is no direct mention of the term ,’spiritual spouse’ in the Bible. Basically, the term spiritual spouses is a generic word to describe demonic manifestations in form of sexual encounters.
Spirits have no gender as illustrated by Jesus’statement when He answered a question pertaining to marriage after the resurrection (Matthew 22:30). Therefore, what people see as spiritual spouses are just unclean spirits that torment and influence them.
Matthew 22:30, AMP [30]For in the resurrected state neither do [men] marry nor are [women] given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven.
The act of sex in dreams symbolizes the making of covenants, just as physical sex is intended for consummating a covenant through the blood in sexual fluids.
The bottom line is that the concept of ‘spiritual spouses’ is derived from the biblical principles of the marriage union and covenant making through blood.
1 Corinthians 6:16, AMP
[16]Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. [Gen. 2:24.]
Most of these covenants are made through promiscuous lifestyles, give demonic spirits access into your body; which should be the temple of The Holy Spirit.
Related: A step-by-step guide on dream interpretation.
Types of sex dreams and their interpretation
Biblical meaning of having sex in a dream with a stranger
To begin with, making love with a stranger is a sign of spiritual attack. What you see in your dreams are simply demonic entities that forcefully play the role of a spouse.
The key thing to consider is how dream symbolism is used in such a context. If the stranger is forcing you into the act, then you have to pay close attention to this dream.
It might symbolize a demonic entity that is trying to take advantage of you. They achieve this by paralyzing you, rendering you defenseless. The male sex demon is called an incubus while the female sex demon is called a succubus.
Most often you wake up very wet and assume it was just a wet dream. However, the truth is that you were making love to demonic entities. I don’t believe in wet dreams, it’s just a lie they taught you in school. We have all heard of spiritual husbands and spiritual wives.
These are the same entities that present themselves in our dreams. What we call spiritual spouses are simply marine spirits, who play the role of a spouse in your dream.
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They can put on a false identity of someone familiar to you, probably your boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you have been having such dreams you should pray against them and plead the blood of Jesus Christ upon your life. Do the same every time you go to bed.
When I was a porn addict, I used to experience such evil dreams. However, when God delivered me, the whole thing stopped. We should all know that the act of sex is more spiritual than it is physical.
Some of you have sired children with demons without your knowledge. That’s why you are having many relationship issues as these demonic entities claim you as their spouse and are very jealous and can’t allow you to move with anyone.
Biblical meaning of having sex with your boyfriend in a dream
In interpreting this dream you have to take into consideration the context of such a dream and the state of your mind by the time you were about to sleep.
If you had been thinking about him or her, then it is possible to fantasize about the two of you making love. The dream is a consequence of your thought.
But if you have never thought of each other sexually or in that manner, then the symbolism might mean something different. We all know that the Bible doesn’t approve of fornication.
This dream may be warning you to be watchful as the enemy seeks to tempt you to fornicate. It may also mean you should be more watchful of your thoughts and how you are relating in your relationship.
It may also symbolize a demonic entity in the shadows of your lover. That is, the entity takes their appearance to easily seduce you to make love with him in the dream.
Spiritual meaning of having sex in a dream with your brother or sister
Your brother or sister is the closest person you have in your life. The person you have spent your childhood together. We should also consider the context from which the dream is drawn.
a) Raping your sister in a dream
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your sister, your father's daughter, or your mother's daughter, whether brought up in the family or another home.” (Leviticus 18:9, ESV)
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife's daughter, brought up in your father's family since she is your sister.” Leviticus 18:11
It may mean there is a perverted spirit operating in your heart and you need to pray about it and repent to be cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
If you have been entertaining such thoughts or probably you have not been relating with your sister properly, then the dream is a warning for you to seek to have a renewed mind and start relating with her in purity.
It is only a perverse man who can lay with his sister and defile her in that manner, hence dishonoring himself.
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If you are having an intimate sexual dream with your brother or sister, then it means that just as the sexual act is intimate, your renewed relationship will be so too. Sex in this dream represents intimacy and renewed healthy bonding.
Sex dreams involving relatives
Considering the context, the dream might be evil or have a significant meaning based on the following scriptures.
“None of you shall approach any one of his close relatives to uncover nakedness. I am the Lord.” Leviticus 18:6
The dream may also indicate renewed family unions. However, you need to pray against such dreams as they are most often evil.
Related: Does God warn you not to marry someone in a dream?
Spiritual meaning of having sex with an angel in a dream
Angels are appointed as ministering spirits to those who are of the seed of Abraham by faith and not flesh (Hebrews 1:14). They can take the form of humans. In the Bible, we see the sons of God who defiled themselves with the daughters of men.
“The sons of God saw that the daughters of man were attractive. And they took as their wives any they chose.” Genesis 6:2
From this, we know that angels can be tempted and they also have desires. This is true as they lusted after the mortal women.
Having sex with an angel symbolizes the highest form of perversion that has ever existed since the beginning of time. It is a forbidden sexual relationship.
Probably you are being seduced into having fellowship with the devil for he turns himself into an angel of light. You are also being initiated into cultism and demonic worship or even witchcraft.
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Lesbian and homosexual sex in a dream
This dream has two distinct meanings based on your dream context. One, the sex dream represents a facet of your personality, a piece of you. In reality, the dream is about you, because you are more willing to give in to your carnal urges.
The person you are having sex with is yourself, and you’re more concerned with satisfying/ fulfilling yourself than with satisfying your spirit and building your inner person.
Secondly, The Lord detests such acts as they are perverse. God created sex to be a special gift of marriage between a man and a woman, and not a man and another man or a woman and another woman.
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22
The symbolism in this dream may indicate that you are being initiated into witchcraft as this is what they do when transferring authority to family members.
You need to pray against such dreams and plead the blood of Jesus that can set you free from every satanic yoke. [John 8:36]
Biblical meaning of having sex in a dream with an animal
The Bible condemns bestiality as it is a perverted and unnatural union. The beast can’t consent to the act, hence its rights are abused.
“And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is a perversion.” Leviticus 18:23
This dream symbolizes initiation into witchcraft and satanism. It can also mean you are very perverted and you need to recheck your thoughts. It might also symbolize sin in your life that is detestable as the act of bestiality.
Pray and repent of your sins to receive redemption for your soul.
A dog licking your private parts in a dream
When you see a dog chasing you in a dream, and in the next scene it licks your private parts, then you need to be very prayerful because you are being defiled.
The dog is symbolic as it represents the lustful men who have been chasing after your body to fornicate with you. Drawing the symbolism from the mating behavior of dogs, we know that a female dog may be mated by over twenty dogs in a day.
The men you are fornicating with are symbolized as “dogs”. This dream may be reflecting your true self especially if you have been living a life of fornication.
“Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.” Revelation 22:15
Just as the act of dogs licking your private parts is disgusting for you to even think of, so is your lifestyle of fornication detestable before God. God is calling you to repentance.
You need to stop fornicating and seek to be freed through the blood of Jesus Christ. God can deliver you if only you let Him.
Biblical meaning of having sex with your spouse in a dream
It is wise to interpret this dream based on your feeling in the dream and its context. The dream may indicate your desire to be with your partner especially if they have recently traveled or are living in a distant city.
It may also indicate your desire for more sex if you are not satisfied sexually with your partner. In this case, you should talk to your spouse about it and your deep sexual desires.
Related: Dreaming of having sex with your father
“Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” I Corinthians 7:5
It may symbolize your appreciation of the intimate sexual relationship you are having with your spouse. Since in the physical, you greatly enjoy the sex, your mind may end up bringing it up in your dreams as sweet memories.
This is a good and healthy dream. Such dreams should not be ignored at all.
Sleeping with an old woman in a dream
Dreaming of having sex with an old woman is another sign of bondage to a spiritual spouse. After this dream, you begin having uncontrolled lust for old women, which eventually causes you to neglect your wife.
This inclination to have sex with old women is unnatural. It causes you to flirt around with old married and single people. The dream kills your natural desire for your wife or women of your age; hence it is demonic.
Related: Dedication of Dreams.
Dreaming of having sex with a woman with male organs
The dream reflects a picture of someone faking their identity or character. Probably, you trust a friend who made you believe they were someone they are not. This is why you see the changing identity.
Just the same way someone will pretend to be a man while in the actual sense, she is a female. The dream reflects on the subject of betrayal, as you trusted the wrong person.
Having oral sex in a dream
Oral sex in a dream reflects something that relates to your mouth. It may have to do with your habits, such as criticism, gossiping, or talking negatively about yourself.
Since oral sex is done by the use of your mouth, it is a clear indication that in your waking life, you are sinning with your mouth. Be careful with what you say about yourself or others.
Dreaming of your high school friends having sex
This dream indicates that you are currently feeling so out of place as though you have been left out. Others seem to be enjoying life just as one would enjoy the act of intimacy.
Try your best to examine your current situation and how it relates to this dream. Perhaps you feel you are stranded as everyone you know including your classmates have made it in life or they are way far ahead of you in life.
Sleeping with a familiar person
Most often when you dream of having sex in a dream with someone you know, it reflects your desire for a certain aspect of their personality traits that you lack, or feel insufficient in.
For example, I used to dream of having very intimate and intense sex with my university lecturer, yet in waking life, we had never related in any way. She used to be very eloquent, bold, and smart. These were the traits I needed as I was finding it a challenge to make YouTube videos as I was not as eloquent as I desired.
However, if you have feelings for this person, then the dream is drawn from your fantasies about them. This happens a lot especially when you have a hard crush on your boss, colleagues, friends, coach, etc. Therefore, work on your mind and heart.
What happens when you have sex in a dream?
- Spiritual spouses, which are simply marine spirits cause stagnation in your life.
- If you were to attend a job interview but end up dreaming of having sex, then you will be disqualified from the position you are applying for.
- When you have sex in your dreams before exams, then you are doomed to fail.
- Dreaming of having sex with strangers while in a relationship leads to all kinds of struggles in that relationship.
- Having sex in your dreams while married leads to infidelity and eventually divorce. They are responsible for most marital failures.
- The sexual activity in your dreams brings you rejection.
- This also causes business failure and bankruptcy.
- These dreams bring diseases, such as erectile dysfunction and other health issues.
- They can lead to miscarriages.
You can consider reading the full article on how to be delivered from spiritual spouses here.
I had a sexual dream I was about to sleep with someone I know I don’t exactly remember who it was but in the dream I think he was a boyfriend but we didn’t end up doing anything so please what could this be 🥺 am already struggling with alot of things please help me
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Good day pastor, I see myself having sex with strange men, the most painful part is I always agree when they ask me of it.
And I always feel it when I wake up
Favour, it seems you have a spiritual spouse and hence you need deliverance.