What is the biblical meaning of having sex in a dream and are sexual dreams even mentioned in scripture?
Erotic dreams are very common and the symbolic meaning may differ greatly based on the context of your dream. It is good to consider the type of sex, how it is being done, and with whom you are involved. Using the Bible, the inspired word of God, we can define the meaning of the sex dreams symbolism.
The symbolism of sex dreams may indicate spiritual defilement and can also reflect a picture of uniting to become one through sex in your dream. The imagery of sex in a dream is meant to symbolize an aspect of your personality.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4, ESV)
I remember God revealing to me dreams about other people who were having sex or being taken advantage of sexually. At first, I thought of the symbolism literally, however, God prompted me to dig into His word and realized the symbolism of sexual dreams meant ‘defilement’ and was also a picture of uniting to become one.
What are the causes of sex dreams?
a. Normal sexual rhythms
Sex dreams can be due to normal sexual rhythms within your body, meaning it is a natural call of your body. For example, most women tend to experience a higher sexual desire and arousal around 14 days to and 7 days after menstruation due to strong sexual tensions caused by hormonal fluctuations. Hence, such dreams reveal the condition of your body and its needs.
b. Soul ties
Erotic dreams can be caused by blood covenants raised through fornication or failed marriages. These covenants act as open doors for demonic attacks as you are still bound to those people. Take the initiative to break each covenant to be set free from evil sexual dreams.
c. A perverted and evil heart.
Your sexual dreams may reflect a perverted and evil heart and mind, hence, you need to repent and walk-in mental, physical, and spiritual purity.
Sex dreams are also meant to terrify us of our carnal nature and sinful lives. e.g. living in fornication, masturbation, adultery, watching porn, lust, and other sexual sins.
d. Demonic activities.
The dream may also be involving demonic entities, probably because you are living in sin, or you were previously living in sexual sin and never received deliverance.
e. Listening and watching corrupted music and movies
Most secular music and movies are dedicated to the devil. These songs open your spirit doors to foreign entities to influence your thoughts and spirit.
f. Evil covenants
There are people who are bound by witchcraft and family altars, without their knowledge. These altars give foreign entities access to your spirit. They often force you to have sexual relations with them in your dreams. The only way out is by breaking family altars and denouncing every power of witchcraft over your life.
g. The dream is symbolic.
This is not a cause but explains the intended purpose of your sexual dreams. Therefore, the dream is symbolic. Most biblical dreams are symbolic, and this can be the case with your dreams.
The imagery of sex in a dream is meant to symbolize an aspect of your personality. For example, if you are a gossiper you will dream of having oral sex in different locations and with different individuals of your caliber.
Types of sex dreams and their interpretation.
1. Biblical meaning of having sex in a dream with a stranger. (Spiritual husbands and spiritual wives).
To begin with, there is nothing like a spiritual husband or spiritual wife. What you see in your dreams are simply demonic entities that forcefully play the role of a spouse. I remember God opening my spiritual eyes, and I saw the actual appearance of these marine spirits.
The key thing to consider is how dream symbolism is used in such a context. If the stranger is forcing you into the act, then you have to pay close attention to this dream. It might symbolize a demonic entity that is trying to take advantage of you. They achieve this by paralyzing you, rendering you defenseless. The male sex demon is called an incubus while the female sex demon is called a succubus.
Most often you wake up very wet and assume it was just a wet dream. However, the truth is that you were making love to demonic entities. I don’t believe in wet dreams, it’s just a lie they taught you in school. We have all heard of spiritual husbands and spiritual wives. These are the same entities that present themselves in our dreams. What we call spiritual spouses are simply marine spirits, who play the role of a spouse in your dream.
They can put on a false identity of someone familiar to you, probably your boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you have been having such dreams you should pray against them and plead the blood of Jesus Christ upon your life. Do the same every time you go to bed.
When I was a porn addict, I used to experience such evil dreams. However, when God delivered me, the whole thing stopped. We should all know that the act of sex is more spiritual than it is physical. Some of you have sired children with demons without your knowledge. That’s why you are having many relationship issues as these demonic entities claim you as their spouse and are very jealous and can’t allow you to move with anyone.
2. Biblical meaning of having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend in a dream.
In interpreting this dream you have to take into consideration the context of such a dream and the state of your mind by the time you were about to sleep.
If you had been thinking about him or her, then it is possible to fantasize about the two of you making love. The dream is a consequence of your thought.
But if you have never thought of each other sexually or in that manner, then the symbolism might mean something different. We all know that the Bible doesn’t approve of fornication. This dream may be warning you to be watchful as the enemy seeks to tempt you to fornicate. It may also mean you should be more watchful of your thoughts and how you are relating in your relationship.
It may also symbolize a demonic entity in the shadows of your lover. That is, the entity takes their appearance to easily seduce you to make love with him in the dream.
3. Spiritual meaning of having sex in a dream with your father.
The symbolism of a father always represents a spiritual authority over our lives, as they are the head of the family and symbolize protection and provision. Therefore, we need to be very careful while interpreting such a dream based on its context.
The devil is a liar. He manipulates your dreams by disguising himself as your mother, brother, sister, or father in your dreams and paints an intimate scene. He wants you to think you slept with your relative to bring condemnation into your life. Remember, he is the accuser of brethren.
The thought of being intimate with your parent or child is tormenting and is strategically intended to make you think you have sinned when you have not. Don’t overthink the dream. Denounce it and reject the schemes of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11)
How do I know this is true? In the book of Job 4:12-19, we see a lying spirit manifesting in Eliphaz’s dream to accuse Job. While in chapter 1 God had already given a testimony of Job being a righteous man.
Not all dreams are inspired by The Holy Spirit, some are influenced by demons. Hence, we need to close every door the enemy might use to gain access to our lives, by being aware of what we watch, listen to, and read. Let the word of God dwell in you richly (Colossians 3:16).
a) Meaning of your father raping you in a dream.
This dream reflects a disturbing situation in your waking life. Your father may symbolize authority over you. This person is pushing you beyond limits and straining you to do something you hate such as forcing you to achieve his youth goals which he never managed to achieve. This feels as if you are being taken advantage of, hence the symbolism of rape in your dream.
The dream can be evil especially if you are living in sin. The Bible condemns the sexual union between a father and a daughter. (Leviticus 18:10, 18:15).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your son's daughter or your daughter's daughter, for their nakedness is your nakedness.” Leviticus 18:10, ESV
The erotic dream may indicate there is a perversion in the family and you need to pray about it. If your father is not born again, then you should pray for him as he might be perverted.
b) Spiritual meaning of your father breaking your virginity in a dream.
Your virginity is reserved for no one else but your future husband and him alone. The symbolism indicates great marital difficulties as you have made a covenant with your father through the shedding of blood, which has the power to bind you together as one. Sex is used to consummate a marriage, cleaving the two to become one flesh.
This is the reason why most ladies are still in their father’s house and have never found a life partner, and if they do the marriage doesn’t last, they always end up divorced and back to their father’s house, it’s a cycle. The covenant they made with their father sexually and unaware opposes those unions. If your father practices witchcraft, then he might have done so to put you under his authority and to gain more power.
God may be revealing to you what conspired, and the reason why you have been having marital difficulties to pray about it to be delivered in Jesus’ name.
c) Dreaming making love with your father.
In this case, he doesn’t force you, you consent to it. It means you are going to have a renewed relationship with him, probably if you had previous differences. It is not an evil dream for God has called us to the ministry of reconciliation. (2 Corinthians 5:18-19).
The dream can also reflect that there are various aspects of your father you admire a lot, such as him being hardworking and caring. This is what your dream is trying to convey using sex imagery.
4) Biblical meaning of having sex with your mother in a dream.
A mother represents a caring and nurturing character in your life as she carried you in her womb for nine months and has nurtured you this far.
The dream can have several meanings depending on the setting. For example, a lady wrote to me saying she had a sex dream with her son. She explained how she was currently going through financial struggles due to joblessness for several years and her son was going through depression/ demonic oppression; hence, it was a stressful period for them.
She also added that before going to bed she had prayed over her son, and her troubles, and particularly prayed and asked the Lord to reveal the truth about her life and circumstances.
This was her dream.
In the dream, I was having sex with my son and at some point, he asked me to kiss him I refused and told him to go get a girlfriend. I then said to him I wonder what God thinks of what we are doing and he just laughed. Then I realized we were in the house I was brought up in, in one of the bedrooms.
As we were having sex I saw a stranger enter another bedroom so I pushed off my son and I got off the bed to see who the person was. By now, he was back in the living room. In the sitting room there was a group of one family ( men, women and children, and youth).
I asked them who they were and what they wanted in my house. They said they were waiting for another relative to arrive because they had something they needed me to know. They were arrogant and even got up to put on the TV, acting as though they had a right in the house. The dream ended before they could tell me why they were there.Anonymous
In this case, the dream was symbolic. The sex imagery reflected the unusual events- (the financial challenges and depression)- that were happening in their lives, just as the intimacy with her son is an unthinkable event.
The strangers in the dream symbolized these unwelcome circumstances that were tormenting them. This family is experiencing spiritual warfare.
The person she saw as her son might also be a demonic spirit that has taken the image of her son. The devil is a shape-shifter and disguises himself to manipulate people. We see him turning into a dragon in revelation, and his fallen angels turning into men to sleep with women in Genesis 6.
a) Your mother forcing you to have sex or you forcing her into the act.
The dream implies she is forcing you to take up character traits you are not comfortable with. Or in other words, she has become too involved in your affairs until she feels she has control over everything you do, hence overpowering. This act is greatly condemned in the scriptures.
It might also be an evil dream if you are living in sin.
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father, which is the nakedness of your mother; she is your mother, you shall not uncover her nakedness. You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife; it is your father's nakedness.” Leviticus 18:7-8, ESV
b) Being intimate with your mother in a dream.
The symbolism in this context means that you are going to reconcile with her if you had previous issues, and also you are going to have a better and strong relationship and friendship with her.
It may also mean there are various aspects of your mother’s character you admire, such as her strength, calmness, kindness, etc. This is what your dream is trying to convey using sex imagery.
5. Spiritual meaning of having sex in a dream with your brother or sister.
Your brother or sister is the closest person you have in your life. The person you have spent your childhood together. We should also consider the context from which the dream is drawn.
a) Raping your sister in a dream.
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your sister, your father's daughter, or your mother's daughter, whether brought up in the family or another home.” (Leviticus 18:9, ESV)
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife's daughter, brought up in your father's family since she is your sister.” Leviticus 18:11
It may mean there is a perverted spirit operating in your heart and you need to pray about it and repent to be cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
If you have been entertaining such thoughts or probably you have not been relating with your sister properly, then the dream is a warning for you to seek to have a renewed mind and start relating with her in purity. It is only a perverse man who can lay with his sister and defile her in that manner, hence dishonoring himself.
If you are having an intimate sexual dream with your brother or sister, then it means that just as the sexual act is intimate, your renewed relationship will be so too. Sex in this dream represents intimacy and renewed healthy bonding.
6. Christian meaning of sex dreams involving your cousin.
Considering the context, the dream might be evil or have a significant meaning based on the following scriptures.
“None of you shall approach any one of his close relatives to uncover nakedness. I am the Lord.” Leviticus 18:6
The dream may also indicate renewed family unions. However, you need to pray against such dreams as they are most often evil.
7. Spiritual meaning of having sex with an angel in a dream.
Angels are appointed as ministering spirits to those who are of the seed of Abraham by faith and not flesh (Hebrews 1:14). They can take the form of humans. In the Bible, we see the sons of God who defiled themselves with the daughters of men.
“The sons of God saw that the daughters of man were attractive. And they took as their wives any they chose.” Genesis 6:2
From this, we know that angels can be tempted and they also have desires. This is true as they lusted after the mortal women.
Having sex with an angel symbolizes the highest form of perversion that has ever existed since the beginning of time. It is a forbidden sexual relationship. Probably you are being seduced into having fellowship with the devil for he turns himself into an angel of light. You are also being initiated into cultism and demonic worship or even witchcraft.
Related: Dreaming of angels.
8. Lesbian and homosexual sex in a dream.
This dream has two distinct meanings based on your dream context. One, the sex dream represents a facet of your personality, a piece of you. In reality, the dream is about you, because you are more willing to give in to your carnal urges. The person you are having sex with is yourself, and you’re more concerned with satisfying/ fulfilling yourself than with satisfying your spirit and building your inner person.
Secondly, The Lord detests such acts as they are perverse. God created sex to be a special gift of marriage between a man and a woman, and not a man and another man or a woman and another woman.
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22
The symbolism in this dream may indicate that you are being initiated into witchcraft as this is what they do when transferring authority to family members.
You need to pray against such dreams and plead the blood of Jesus that can set you free from every satanic yoke. [John 8:36]
9. Biblical meaning of having sex in a dream with an animal.
The Bible condemns bestiality as it is a perverted and unnatural union. The beast can’t consent to the act, hence its rights are abused.
“And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is a perversion.” Leviticus 18:23
This dream symbolizes initiation into witchcraft and satanism. It can also mean you are very perverted and you need to recheck your thoughts. It might also symbolize sin in your life that is detestable as the act of bestiality. Pray and repent of your sins to receive redemption for your soul.
10. A dog licking your private parts in a dream.
When you see a dog chasing you in a dream, and in the next scene it licks your private parts, then you need to be very prayerful because you are being defiled.
The dog is symbolic as it represents the lustful men who have been chasing after your body to fornicate with you. Drawing the symbolism from the mating behavior of dogs, we know that a female dog may be mated by over twenty dogs in a day. The men you are fornicating with are symbolized as “dogs”. This dream may be reflecting your true self especially if you have been living a life of fornication.
“Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.” Revelation 22:15
Just as the act of dogs licking your private parts is disgusting for you to even think of, so is your lifestyle of fornication detestable before God. God is calling you to repentance. You need to stop fornicating and seek to be freed through the blood of Jesus Christ. God can deliver you if only you let Him.
11. Biblical meaning of having sex with your spouse in a dream.
It is wise to interpret this dream based on your feeling in the dream and its context. The dream may indicate your desire to be with your partner especially if they have recently traveled or are living in a distant city.
It may also indicate your desire for more sex if you are not satisfied sexually with your partner. In this case, you should talk to your spouse about it and your deep sexual desires.
Related: Should a man lust after his wife?
“Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” I Corinthians 7:5
It may symbolize your appreciation of the intimate sexual relationship you are having with your spouse. Since in the physical you greatly enjoy the sex, your mind may end up bringing it up in your dreams as sweet memories. This is a good and healthy dream. Such dreams should not be ignored at all.
12. Sleeping with an old woman in a dream.
Dreaming of having sex with an old woman is another sign of bondage to a spiritual spouse. After this dream, you begin having uncontrolled lust for old women, which eventually causes you to neglect your wife.
This inclination to have sex with old women is unnatural. It causes you to flirt around with old married and single people. The dream kills your natural desire for your wife or women of your age; hence it is demonic.
Related: Dedication of Dreams.
13. Dreaming of having sex with a woman with male organs.
The dream reflects a picture of someone faking their identity or character. Probably, you trust a friend who made you believe they were someone they are not. This is why you see the changing identity.
Just the same way someone will pretend to be a man while in the actual sense, she is a female. The dream reflects on the subject of betrayal, as you trusted the wrong person.
14. Having oral sex in a dream.
Oral sex in a dream reflects something that relates to your mouth. It may have to do with your habits, such as criticism, gossiping, or talking negatively about yourself.
Since oral sex is done by the use of your mouth, it is a clear indication that in your waking life you are sinning with your mouth. Be careful with what you say about yourself or others.
15. Dreaming of having sex with a celebrity.
Dreaming of having sex with a celebrity reflects your obsession and desire toward that person. You may be attracted to them due to a specific aspect of their personality that your spouse lacks. Perhaps, the male celebrity is more handsome and masculine than your husband. Or probably, the female celebrity is more fair and independent than your wife. Whatever attracts you to that celebrity may differ from person to person.
This has the effect of drawing your heart and affection away from your spouse. You become attached to fantasy, and that’s why it manifests in your dreams. This act is sinful, as you are lusting after a stranger. Be realistic and learn to be contented with what you have, because it’s the best.
16. Dreaming of your high school friends having sex.
This dream indicates that you are currently feeling so out of place as though you have been left out. Others seem to be enjoying life just as one would enjoy the act of intimacy.
Try your best to examine your current situation and how it relates to this dream. Perhaps you feel you are stranded as everyone you know including your classmates have made it in life or they are way far ahead of you in life.
17. Dreaming of having sex with a familiar person.
Most often when you dream of having sex with a familiar person it reflects your desire for a certain aspect of their personality traits that you lack, or feel insufficient in.
For example, I used to dream of having very intimate and intense sex with my university lecturer, yet in waking life, we had never related in any way. She used to be very eloquent, bold, and smart. These were the traits I needed as I was finding it a challenge to make YouTube videos as I was not as eloquent as I desired.
However, if you have feelings for this person, then the dream is drawn from your fantasies about them. This happens a lot especially when you have a hard crush on your boss, colleagues, friends, coach, etc. Therefore, work on your mind and heart.
What happens when you have sex in a dream?
- Spiritual spouses, which are simply marine spirits cause stagnation in your life.
- If you were to attend a job interview but end up dreaming of having sex, then you will be disqualified from the position you are applying for.
- When you have sex in your dreams before exams, then you are doomed to fail.
- Dreaming of having sex with strangers while in a relationship leads to all kinds of struggles in that relationship.
- Having sex in your dreams while married leads to infidelity and eventually divorce. They are responsible for most marital failures.
- The sexual activity in your dreams brings you rejection.
- This also causes business failure and bankruptcy.
- These dreams bring diseases, such as erectile dysfunction and other health issues.
- They can lead to miscarriages.
You can consider reading the full article on how to be delivered from spiritual spouses here.