Sexual dreams are common and often reflect our subconscious desires. However, some people may wonder if there is a deeper, spiritual meaning behind these dreams, especially from a biblical perspective. What does the Bible say about having sex in a dream? How should Christians interpret and respond to such dreams?
In this article, I will explore the biblical implications of sexual dreams, drawing from the inspired word of God. I will also discuss some practical tips on how to deal with sexual dreams. Sexual dreams are not necessarily sinful, but rather an opportunity to examine one’s heart.
Sex is more spiritual than it is physical. Having sex in a dream doesn’t imply a literal involvement, rather it indicates spiritual defiled. God may reveal sexual dreams to show us the state of our hearts.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4).
What is The Biblical Symbolism of Having Sex in a Dream?
A Symbol of Hidden Desires and Temptations
Erotic dreams can serve as a mirror, reflecting your hidden desires. According to biblical interpretations, these dreams could be a reminder of the ongoing struggle between your fleshly desires and your commitment to lead a virtuous life.
Such dreams act as an alarm bell, urging us to conquer any sinful tendencies by seeking the power of God to resist them.
James 4:7-8 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double-minded.
Related: A step-by-step guide on dream interpretation.
A Symbolic Representation of Covenants
From a biblical perspective, sexual dreams can also represent the idea of covenant and unity. Just as sexual intimacy within marriage symbolizes the holy union between spouses, a sexual dream might indicate a longing for emotional, spiritual, and physical oneness with someone else.
It embodies the yearning for a committed relationship, mirroring the biblical notion of a covenant.
A Caution Against Immorality
While dreams can carry deep spiritual significance, it is crucial to interpret sexual dreams with wisdom. The Bible cautions against immorality in thought and deed.
Sexual dreams that incite lustful thoughts or endorse immoral conduct should be opposed. Instead, individuals are urged to concentrate on fostering purity and a lifestyle centered around Christ.
2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
Related: What are The Causes of Sex Dreams?
Common Situation in Which You Dream of Having Sex in a Dream
Biblical meaning of having sex with your Ex in a dream
In the context of biblical interpretation, dreaming about having sexual relations with your ex often symbolizes a longing for certain elements of that past relationship that are absent in your present one.
To illustrate, I used to dream about being intimate with my ex, even though we never had any physical contact in reality. It was the most chaste relationship I have ever had, with strict adherence to sexual boundaries.
In my waking life, I was involved in another relationship. However, the dynamics had changed as we had crossed some sexual boundaries, even though we had not engaged in sexual intercourse. I found myself yearning for the purity that characterized my previous relationship with my ex, a stark contrast to the struggles I was facing in my current relationship. This was the message my dream was conveying.
Dreaming about having sex with your ex could also be a reflection of your ex’s efforts to rekindle the relationship, or it could be indicative of the state of your heart, as you might be missing your ex. It’s possible that you haven’t fully resolved your issues with him/her.
Biblical Meaning of Dreaming of Having Sex with a Stranger (“Spiritual Spouses”)
To begin with, there is nothing like a spiritual husband or spiritual wife. What you see in your dreams are simply demonic entities that forcefully play the role of a spouse. I remember God opening my spiritual eyes, and I saw the actual appearance of these spirits.
The key thing to consider is how the symbolism is used in such a context. If the stranger is forcing you into the act, then you have to pay close attention to this dream. It might symbolize a demonic entity that is trying to take advantage of you.
They achieve this by paralyzing you, rendering you defenseless. The male sex demon is called an incubus while the female sex demon is called a succubus.
Most often you wake up very wet and assume it was just a wet dream. However, the truth is that you were making love to demonic entities. I don’t believe in wet dreams; it is just a lie they taught you in schools. We have all heard of spiritual husbands and spiritual wives.
These are the same entities that present themselves in our dreams. What we call spiritual spouses are simply demonic spirits, who play the role of a spouse in your dream.
They can put on a false identity of someone familiar to you, probably your boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you have been having such dreams you should pray against them and plead the blood of Jesus Christ upon your life. Do the same every time you go to bed.
When I was a porn addict, I used to experience such evil dreams. However, when God delivered me, the whole thing stopped. We should all know that the act of sex is more spiritual than it is physical. Some of you have sired children with demons without your knowledge.
That is why you are having many relationship issues as these demonic entities claim you as their spouse and are very jealous and can not allow you to move with anyone.
Related: How to be delivered from sex addiction
Dreaming of Having Sex with Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
In interpreting this dream you have to take into consideration the context of such a dream and the state of your mind by the time you were about to sleep.
If you have been thinking about him or her, then it is possible to fantasize about the two of you making love. The dream is a consequence of your thought.
But if you have never thought of each other sexually or in that manner, then the symbolism might mean something different. We all know that the Bible does not approve of fornication.
This dream may be warning you to be watchful as the enemy seeks to tempt you to fornicate. It may also mean you should be more watchful of your thoughts and how you are relating in your relationship.
It may also symbolize a demonic entity in the shadows of your lover. That is, the entity takes their appearance to easily seduce you to make love with him in the dream.
Dreaming Of Having Sex with Your Father
The symbolism of a father always represents a spiritual authority over our life, as they are the head of the family. Therefore, we need to be very careful while interpreting such a dream based on its context.
1). If Your Father is Forcing You into The Sexual Act
This dream reflects a disturbing situation in your waking life. Your father may symbolize authority over you. This person is pushing you beyond limits and straining you to do something you hate such as forcing you to achieve his youth goals which he never managed to achieve.
This feels as if you are being taken advantage of, hence the symbolism of rape in your dream.
The dream can be evil especially if you are living in sin. The Bible condemns the sexual union between a father and a daughter. (Leviticus 18:10, 18:15).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your son's daughter or your daughter's daughter, for their nakedness is your nakedness.” (Leviticus 18:10, ESV).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your daughter-in-law; she is your son's wife; you shall not uncover her nakedness.” (Leviticus 18:15, ESV).
The sex dream may indicate there is a perversion in the family and you need to pray about it. If your father is not born again, then you should pray for him as he might be perverted.
2). Your Father Breaking Your Virginity
Your virginity is reserved for no one else but your future husband and he alone. The symbolism indicates great marital difficulties as you have made a covenant with your father through the shedding of blood, which has the power to bind you together as one. Sex is used to consummate a marriage, cleaving the two to become one flesh.
This is the reason why most ladies are still in their father’s house and have never found a life partner, and if they do the marriage doesn’t last, they always end up divorced and back to their father’s house, it is a cycle.
The covenant they made with their father sexually and unaware opposes those unions. If your father practices witchcraft, then he might have done so to put you under his authority and to gain more power.
God may be revealing to you what conspired, and the reason why you have been having marital difficulties, to pray about it to be delivered in Jesus’ name.
3). Having an Intimate Sexual Act with Your Father
In this case, you consent to the act. Some people may claim that “this dream means you are going to have a renewed relationship with him, probably if you had previous differences, as God has called us to the ministry of reconciliation (II Corinthians 5:18-19).”
This is not true, as there isn’t any biblical principle that supports this ideology. Why would you, in any case, desire to sleep with your parent? It is unnatural and contrary to God’s design of sexual relations.
Reject this dream, as it is a lie from the pits of hell. Consecrate your mind through the word of God (John 17:17, Romans 12:1-2).
If you are a carnal Christian, then sexual dreams might be your mind’s way of processing intimacy in relationships. Even with that said, this concept, to a greater extent, is flawed and does not pass the ‘litmus test’ of biblical teachings.
Your spirit is not awakened to the reality of the word of God and its implications. That is to say, you are still a babe operating under the inclinations of your flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:14, Romans 8:5-7)
Dreaming of Having sex with your mother in a dream
A mother represents a caring character in your life as she carried you in her womb for nine months and she has nurtured you this far.
1). Your Mother Forcing You to Have Sex
The dream implies she is forcing you to take up character traits you are not comfortable with or in other words, she has become too involved in your affairs until she feels she has control over everything you do. This act is greatly condemned in the scriptures.
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father, which is the nakedness of your mother; she is your mother, you shall not uncover her nakedness. You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife; it is your father's nakedness.” Leviticus 18:7-8, ESV
This is an evil dream and you should pray to cancel it.
2). Having Very Intimate Sex with Your Mother
As we have seen earlier, intimacy with your parent in a dream is unnatural, and the concept does not align with any biblical principles. This dream is a scheme from the enemy to lure you into sinful thoughts, therefore, reject it in the name of Jesus.
Biblical Significance of Dreaming of Having Sex with Your Sibling
Your brother or sister is the closest person you have in your life. The person you have spent your childhood together. Consider the context from which the dream is drawn.
1). Raping Your Sister or Tricking Her to Have Sex with You
It may mean there is a perverted spirit operating in your heart and you need to pray about it and repent to be cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your sister, your father's daughter or your mother's daughter, whether brought up in the family or another home.” (Leviticus 18:9, ESV).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife's daughter, brought up in your father's family since she is your sister.” (Leviticus 18:11).
If you have been entertaining such thoughts or probably you have not been relating with your sister properly, then the dream is a warning for you to seek to have a renewed mind and start relating with her in purity.
It is only a perverse man who can lay with his sister and defile her in that manner, hence dishonoring himself.
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your sister, your father's daughter or your mother's daughter, whether brought up in the family or another home.” (Leviticus 18:9, ESV).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father's wife's daughter, brought up in your father's family since she is your sister.” (Leviticus 18:11).
From a psychological perspective, having an intimate sexual dream with your sibling indicates a sense of a renewed relationship between you. Sex in this dream represents intimacy and renewed very healthy bonding. However, there is no biblical principle to support this argument.
Dreaming of Having Sex with Your Cousin or Other Family Members
Considering the context, the dream might be evil or have a significant meaning based on the following scriptures.
“None of you shall approach any one of his close relatives to uncover nakedness. I am the Lord.” (Leviticus 18:6).
“You shall not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, and you shall not take her son’s daughter or her daughter’s daughter to uncover her nakedness; they are relatives; it is depravity.” (Leviticus 18:17).
The dream may also indicate renewed family unions. However, you need to pray against such dreams as they are most often evil.
Related: Does God warn you not to marry someone in a dream?
Spiritual meaning of Meaning of Having Sex with an Angel in a Dream
Angels are appointed as ministering spirits to those who are of the seed of Abraham by faith and not flesh (Hebrews 1:14). They can take the form of humans. In the Bible, we see the sons of God who defiled themselves with the daughters of men.
“The sons of God saw that the daughters of man were attractive. And they took as their wives any they chose.” Genesis 6:2
From this, we know that angels can be tempted and they also have desires. This is true as they lusted after the mortal women.
Making love with an angel symbolizes the highest form of perversion that has ever existed since the beginning of time. It is a forbidden sexual relationship.
Probably you are being seduced into having fellowship with the devil for he turns himself into an angel of light. You are also being initiated into cultism and demonic worship or even witchcraft.
Related: Dreaming of angels.
Dreaming of Lesbianism and Homosexuality
This dream has two distinct meanings based on its context. One, the sex dream represents a facet of your personality.
In reality, the dream is about you, because you are more willing to give in to your carnal urges.
The person you are having sex with is yourself, and you are more concerned with satisfying yourself at the expense of building your inner person.
Secondly, The Lord detests such acts as they are perverse. God created sex to be a special gift of marriage between a man and a woman, and not a man and another man or a woman and another woman.
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22
The symbolism in this dream may indicate that you are being initiated into witchcraft as this is what they do in their cultic rituals.
You need to pray against such dreams and ask God to deliver you from every satanic yoke.
Having sex With an Animal in a Dream
The Bible condemns bestiality as it is a perverted and unnatural union. The beast can not consent to the act; hence it is violated.
“And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is a perversion.” Leviticus 18:23
This dream symbolizes initiation into witchcraft and Satanism. It can also mean you are very perverted and you need to recheck your thoughts.
It might also symbolize sin in your life that is detestable as the act of bestiality. Pray and repent of your sins to receive redemption for your soul.
Dreaming of a Dog Licking Your Private Parts
When you see a dog chasing you in a dream, and in the next scene it licks your private parts, then you need to be very prayerful because you are being defiled.
The dog is symbolic as it represents the lustful men who have been chasing after your body to fornicate with you. Drawing the symbolism from the mating behavior of dogs, we know that a female dog may be mated by over twenty dogs in a day.
The men you are fornicating with are symbolized as “dogs”. This dream may be reflecting your true self especially if you have been living a life of fornication.
“Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.” Revelation 22:15
Just as the act of dogs licking your private parts is disgusting for you to even think of, so is your lifestyle of fornication detestable before God. God is calling you to repentance.
You need to stop fornicating and seek to be freed through the blood of Jesus Christ. God can deliver you if only you let Him.
Dreaming of Having Sex with Your Spouse: Biblical Meaning
It is wise to interpret this dream based on your feelings about the dream and its context. The dream may indicate your desire to be with your partner especially if they have recently traveled or are living in a distant city.
It may also indicate your desire for more sex if you are not satisfied sexually with your partner. In this case, you should talk to your spouse about it and your deep sexual desires.
Related: Should a man lust after his wife?
“Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” I Corinthians 7:5
It may symbolize your appreciation of the intimate sexual relationship you are having with your spouse. Since in the physical, you greatly enjoy the sex, your mind may end up bringing it up in your dreams as sweet memories. Such dreams should not be ignored.
Sleeping With an Old Woman in a Dream
Dreaming of having sex with an old woman is another sign of bondage to a spiritual spouse. After this dream, you begin having uncontrolled lust for old women, which eventually causes you to neglect your wife.
This inclination to have sex with old women is unnatural. It causes you to flirt around with old married and single women. The dream kills your natural desire towards your wife or women of your age; hence it is demonic.
Related: Dedication of Dreams.
Having Sex with a Woman with Male Organs
The dream reflects a picture of someone faking their identity or character. Probably, you trust a friend who made you believe they were someone they are not. This is why you see the changing identity.
Just the same way someone will pretend to be a man while in the actual sense, she is a female. The dream reflects on the subject of betrayal, as you trusted the wrong person.
Having Oral Sex in a Dream
Oral sex in a dream reflects something that relates to your mouth. It may have to do with your habits, such as criticism, gossiping, or talking negatively about yourself.
Since oral sex is done by the use of your mouth, it is a clear indication that in your waking life, you are sinning with your mouth. Be careful with what you say about yourself or others.
Biblical Meaning of Dreaming About Having Sex with a Celebrity
Dreaming of having sex with a celebrity reflects your obsession and desire towards that person. You may be attracted to them due to a specific aspect of their personality that your spouse lacks.
Perhaps, the male celebrity is more handsome and masculine than your husband. Or probably, the female celebrity is fairer and more independent than your wife. Whatever attracts you to that celebrity may differ from person to person.
This has the effect of drawing your heart and affection away from your spouse. You become attached to fantasy, that’s why it manifests in your dreams. This act is sinful, as you are lusting after a stranger. Be realistic and learn to be contented with what you have, because it is the best.
Dreaming of Your High School Friends Having Sex
This dream indicates that you are currently feeling so out of place as though you have been left out. Others seem to be enjoying life just as one would enjoy the act of intimacy. Try your best to examine your current situation and how it relates to this dream.
Perhaps you feel you are stranded as everyone you know including your classmates have made it in life or are way far ahead of you in life.
Sleeping with a familiar person
Most often when you dream of having sex in a dream with someone you know, it reflects your desire for a certain aspect of their personality traits that you lack, or feel insufficient in.
For example, I used to dream of having very intimate and intense sex with my university lecturer, yet in waking life, we had never related in any way. She used to be very eloquent, bold, and smart. These were the traits I needed as I was finding it a challenge to make YouTube videos as I was not as eloquent as I desired.
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However, if you have feelings for this person, then the dream is drawn from your fantasies about them. This happens a lot especially when you have a hard crush on your boss, colleagues, friends, coach, etc. Therefore, work on your mind and heart.
What Happens When You Have Sex in a Dream?
- Spiritual spouses, which are simply marine spirits cause stagnation in your life.
- If you were to attend a job interview but end up dreaming of having sex, then you will be disqualified from the position you are applying for.
- When you have sex in your dreams before exams, then you are doomed to fail.
- Dreaming of having sex with strangers while in a relationship leads to all kinds of struggles in that relationship.
- Having sex in your dreams while married leads to infidelity and eventually divorce. They are responsible for most marital failures.
- The sexual activity in your dreams brings you rejection.
- This also causes business failure and bankruptcy.
- These dreams bring diseases, such as erectile dysfunction and other health issues.
- They can lead to miscarriages.
A Prayer Against Sexual Encounters in Dreams
- Heavenly Father,
- I come before You in prayer, acknowledging Your sovereignty and grace. You are the author of holiness, and I seek Your presence in this moment. I lift my concerns about the dreams I have been experiencing, particularly those involving sexual encounters.
- Lord, I recognize that these dreams conflict with Your design for purity and righteousness. Your Word teaches us to guard our hearts and minds, to flee from temptation, and to honor the sanctity of sexual intimacy within the confines of marriage.
- I repent for any thoughts, actions, or influences that might have led to these unsettling dreams.
- I pray for Your divine protection over my mind as I sleep. I ask for Your strength to resist any impure temptations that might infiltrate my subconscious. Please fortify my spirit against the schemes of the enemy, who seeks to disrupt my peace and compromise my faith.
- Help me, Lord, to discern the messages within my dreams. Grant me wisdom to understand their significance, and guide me in responding with faith, prayer, and obedience to Your will.
- May Your Spirit provide me with understanding, separating Your truth from any deceptive influences.
- Father, I surrender these dreams into Your hands. I pray for Your healing in my mind and spirit. Purify my thoughts and cleanse my heart, renewing me according to Your Word. Strengthen me to walk in righteousness, resisting all forms of immorality or impurity.
- I place my trust in You, knowing that You are faithful and compassionate. Grant me peace as I rest, knowing that You are my protector and refuge. Thank You for Your unconditional love and grace.
- In Jesus’ name, I pray,
- Amen.
I had a sexual dream I was about to sleep with someone I know I don’t exactly remember who it was but in the dream I think he was a boyfriend but we didn’t end up doing anything so please what could this be 🥺 am already struggling with alot of things please help me
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Good day pastor, I see myself having sex with strange men, the most painful part is I always agree when they ask me of it.
And I always feel it when I wake up
Favour, it seems you have a spiritual spouse and hence you need deliverance.