Does God warn you not to marry someone? The answer is yes. Indeed, God does warn us not to be involved with some people in a relationship. The reason is that God knows the motives of every person’s heart and He also knows what is best for us. This doesn’t mean that God chooses a life partner for anyone. Don’t confuse the two. God can never choose a spouse or even reveal to you your future spouse in a dream. It is our choice to make and not His. Having comprehended that, it is easier to also understand when God warns you not to marry someone in a dream.

Does God warn you not to marry someone?

I always say that dreams serve 3 major purposes in the lives of a believer. These are also the main reasons why God gives us dreams.

  1. Dreams are meant for instruction.
  2. They are for warnings. [Job 33:14-18].
  3. They are meant to give us direction.

With our carnal eyes and mind, we cannot understand the person we are eager to marry. They might be very beautiful or handsome. This is the reason you spotted them in the first place. They might also portray characters or attitudes that we adore. Which makes them even more attractive.

They might also be Christians who love the LORD; however, they have another hidden side of them. There are things they hide from you about themselves. Therefore, they are not utterly faithful to you. Most often we fail to discern the truth since we are caught up in the fantastic illusion of love. Therefore, we can’t think straight as our judgment is clouded with fantasy.

Why God warns you not to marry someone?

The reason why God warns you not to marry someone is that he sees them through. And He doesn’t want you to end in a toxic relationship that will eventually break your heart terribly. Or even worse leads to divorce in the near future. Always know that some people are too good to be true or trusted at all.

It is commonly known that some people can pretend to be true believers in the short run just to win someone’s heart over. I have personally witnessed the same and it is a sad story. This kind of deception is evident in the church today. As the church is a perfect ground to spot innocent and virgin ladies or Christians generally. Ladies are most cases the targeted prey for such deceptions. I am not saying men are immune to deception, however, it is these same men that practice such deception.

When God warns you not to marry someone in a dream, it’s because He understands what is happening behind the scenes.

A personal experience where God warned me in a dream not to date someone.

There was a time I had issues in my relationship and I thought maybe I should quit. However, this was not the Will of God, it was just a test. True love was being tested.

At one instance I started thinking of this lady who used to visit our home to purchase some products we were selling. The lady was a pastor’s daughter and she had a very good reputation. This made her outstanding and attractive. She was also very beautiful I confess. Then I started entertaining the thought of dating her, as she would make a great wife. She had all the qualities, why then not date her and eventually marry her?

However, God warned me in a dream not to date her at all. In the dream, we were dating. In one scene I was with her, just having fun, and the relationship seemed so deep as we were caressing. Then suddenly, in the other scene, she was with someone else, in fact fornicating. I walked up and was shocked. I then prayed and God gave me the interpretation. The message was clear. God warned me not to date her. It’s like she was living a double-standard life. Or let’s say she was not utterly faithful, and therefore not the person I thought her to be.

To back up this dream, God revealed to me another dream about a pastor’s wife. In the dream, she was having an affair with another man. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. Then I asked a lady who was supposedly her friend if she had known about this. In the dream, she told me that this is what the pastor’s wife had been doing behind the scenes. From this, I learned that God was protecting me from making the same mistake and finding myself in such a relationship. God was still warning me not to date the pastor’s daughter.

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What purpose do dreams serve in our lives especially concerning marriage?

From the above examples, we have learned how and why God warns us through dreams. God warns you not to marry someone to keep you out of toxic relationships and marriage. He desires that we enjoy our marriage life and not struggle in it.

a) Dreams meant to warn us.

When you read Job 33:14-18, you will see how God speaks to us in a deep sleep to warn us about certain things. The goal is to keep us from falling into a pit. The pit of sin or the snare of the enemy. For example, God warned Abimelech through a dream not to touch Sarah, lest he dies. [Genesis 20:3].

b) Dreams meant to instruct us.

God can instruct us on what we ought to do when faced with a challenging circumstance. He can also instruct us on what to avoid to escape temptations or trouble. A good example is that of Joseph and Marry the mother of Jesus. God instructed Joseph in a dream to flee to Egypt together with Marry and the baby Jesus since Herod had purposed to kill the child. [Matthew 2:13].

d) Dreams meant to give direction.

These dreams are closely related to those of instruction. However, direct in our context means to lead or guide to achieve certain goals. It has the same meaning as Psalms 37:23. In that God directs our steps even through a dream or vision.

Biblical evidence that God can warn you not to marry someone.

The best example is that of Joseph and Marry. Even though in this example God instructed Joseph not to leave Marry. It still gives us solid evidence that God can instruct you not to divorce or leave your partner. He can also warn you from marrying someone.

You should realize that God didn’t instruct Joseph to Marry. Or let’s say God had not given Joseph a future revelation of who his wife would be. In this case, God was instructing Joseph not to leave marry since they were already in a relationship. Joseph had chosen Marry for himself and not God. God was saving their relationship because Joseph was about to make a serious mistake.


The bottom line is that God can warn you not to marry someone, however, He does not choose a life partner for anyone. It’s your choice to make. 

I hope this piece of article answered your question. Does God warn you not to marry someone in a dream? Let me hear your thoughts in the comments section below. Looking forward to hearing from you and thank you for reading to the end. God bless you.

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  1. Heather Biangardi says:

    My dream was weird…I was walking through the gym and it was a spiritual gym. I was on a bike and it broke so I went and walked around. I found the bike near a desk I got on and the peddle broke so I got off and started walking around. I seen a girl who appeared to be hurt so I was trying to help her and she gave me an attitude. So I called her ungrateful and walked away. I walked through some clothes that was hanging up and a man came out he had a beard and was heavy set. He looked at me and kept walking. I turned to my left and seen a tall bald white man talking to people and praying. I walked up to him and looked to my left and the man that walked past me through the clothes was standing there. I said “I made it” the preacher guy turned around put his hand on my head….Said what is it you want? I said people are so ungrateful and I started crying. He took a cup and shook it and said….I’m trying to figure out how much Bible study you have done… I said I start my first class in the fall…. I am reading my Bible daily. He put his had on my head again and said you want to marry?….DONT! Do not get married! He will trap you and you will never get away….. then handed me the cup and I walked away… looked at the cup and there was silver shiny trinkets in there. I walked out the doors and then woke up….

    1. If you are in a relationship, treat this dream as a warning. Be careful of the person you are dating, God doesn’t approve of that relationship, so save yourself before it is too late

  2. Leave a comment..good afternoon sir and happy Sunday pls sir I need your help, I had dream that after returned from church I saw my self with a woman in a yard and she ask me is these a girl u think is wife that u can marry? look at these mannerless attitude of her, after waking up I pray and slept back then I saw my self in a market, I saw these same girl that a woman spake to me about walking pass me by pls man of God tell me the meaning.

    1. I believe this is a warning dream. If you are in a relationship, you need to be more watchful. Observe your partner before commiting to anything serious

  3. Linda Jairo says:

    Good afternoon,
    I watched your story on Lyn Ngugi show and it blessed me and am sure many will be blessed by it too
    It was really divine for me to have ended up watching it actually. God directed me to the story and when you mentioned the gift of interpreting dreams I was puzzled. Truly God works in mysterious ways
    I had a cople of dreams I needed your interpretation on

    1. I had a dream that I was naked infront of two people. One was familiar to me, the other person I ddnt know them. We were actually seated and I remember seeing myself naked. What could that mean?

    2. Last week I dreamt I was in a gym set up and someone familiar to me was training intensely. I remember asking her why she was doing it and she told me it was for her. I remember seeing 3 people (Me, the lady and a fitness coach). Please interpret that one too for me

    1. Thank you Linda I thank God for the grace.

      The first dream symbolizes that your secrets will eventually come out (the secret might be a situation or something that makes you uncomfortable) that’s why you saw your self naked Infront of your friends.

      The second dream reflects your effort to battle or achieve something, that’s why you are training intensely in your dream. Try to reflect which area in your life you seem to be putting more effort.

  4. Hello and thank you for your ministry!
    I’m reaching out for some relationship help. I have been with someone for almost 5 years. Let’s just say I had relapse in sin when we got together, we never married and had a child together. Since September 2021 I have reached a wonderful relationship with the the lord, renewed. I’ve been saved for 13 years plus. I haven’t lived with this man for 3years but he insisted on us working this out and he continues to get better and since this renewed relationship with Jesus I’ve had, I haven’t slept with him and then I did break up with him and he started to cry out to God. He then again insisted we stay good friends and try to continue to work on the relationship. We have been through a lot, a lot of strife and drinking. I do believe God is doing work in him but I have never been in love with this man. I am still not in love. He would always insist I have sex with him and even when I would say no he would be persistent not violently, just basically did it anyways. Even though we weren’t married I thought it as my duty to let this happen. I struggled for a long time. God has helped me tremendously but I do not think I can really trust this person but still try to see if we can make it so that we don’t have a broken family. I like being his friend but intimately I feel nothing. I have had 2 dreams about him, one before he cried out to God and then another with him showing me a bottle of vodka In his ice chest and saying he would drink it but it wouldn’t be a problem. I took this as a warning from God. I was very angry with him in this dream bc I finally committed to him and he basically betrayed me. Any insite would be greatly appreciated, I’ve never asked for council, of course except for God’s. I know in the Bible it says seek council of the wise. Here I am. Thank you !

    1. Rebekah, thank you for reaching out. Two things are clear form what you have wrote. One, you have no affection for this man, and I believe you don’t want to end up in a marriage just for formality. Wisdom itself tells you that you should never marry someone you are not in love with. Allowed me to quote what you just said, “but I have never been in love with this man. I am still not in love.”

      Secondly, God warned you through a dream that this man has not transformed, he is only desperate for a relationship, and the truth is that he will never be committed to you or be faithful. Read Job 33:14-28.

      Allowed me to quote a portion of your dream, “then another with him showing me a bottle of vodka In his ice chest and saying he would drink it but it wouldn’t be a problem.”

      In this dream, it’s clear that the man is pretending to love you so as to get what he wants, and eventually cause you to backslide. I believe you won’t want that for sure. It’s time to work on your salvation, and anything that hinders you from doing so, should be avoided.

      2 Corinthians 6:14-17
      Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

      6:15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

      6:16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”

      6:17 “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.”

      I know of a lady who ignored God’s warning through his servants, for her not to be involved with some guy, but she thought she was so spiritual and wise, hence ignored the warning. Today, she is in a messed up marriage, under great bondage and she can’t help herself. Please don’t make the same mistake.

      Having a child with someone doesn’t qualify him to be your spouse. He is responsible for taking care of the kid, but that doesn’t mean you should marriage him.

      1. Thank you sir for your help. This is just a confirmation of what I already knew. Pray for me please and him in the process of real separation. He is very persistent and I need the spirit of guilt prayed off of me. Thank you so much!


  5. This is an amazing piece of work. I have learned new insight on dreams and The Will of God. God be glorified for such wisdom.

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