What is the importance of vision in a relationship, and do you have a vision for your relationship or marriage goals? Like in any other institution, vision is the motivating and key factor in any relationship. It is well known that “where there is no vision the people perish.” (Proverbs 29:18, NIV). The same concept is very critical for any meaningful relationship to work. If it lacks vision, it lacks control and the parties involved end up casting off restraint. You can guess what will happen.
The vision or end goal of every good relationship is a marriage that honors God and one that helps you to pursue your dreams, that is being with the person who compliments and inspires you to become the best version of yourself. Compatibility is also key to consider. Relationships require investment, in terms of quality time, resources, and also good communication. But investment without a plan with a clear time frame is almost or even useless. What I mean is having objectives that you intend to sacrifice to achieve for the common good of the parties involved.
These objectives may include: walking in purity, integrity, serving the Lord with a whole heart, and anything else that contributes to the end product- a marriage that honors God and one you will enjoy.
Dangers of visionless relationship
A relationship that lacks a clear vision or marriage goals, leads to a dead-end and many sorrows. The most know consequence of such is fornication/ compromise. This happens because there was no effort of having a goal or even not objectively following your vision. You may still have a vision but end up compromising. Why? because the two parties did not objectively/ intentionally pursue their vision.
Having no vision in a relationship or marriage goals is like going through campus education without any objective or purpose. You just go through the system just to acquire a degree. Most people just found themselves in love, there was no plan, it just happens as they would claim. what do you expect to happen to these couples without marriage goals? they will be living a life of struggle unless they come to their senses and define their marriage goals, the purpose of them being married in the first place, and what they actually need in life.
The other danger is putting yourselves in an awkward position where you can’t explain clearly what you really are engaged in and end up wasting each other’s time and resources. This is painful. You end up being entangled/ attached to a person who is wasting your time and fooling you.
The end result of such a relationship is hatred and unforgiveness that make you mad and heartsick as you try to figure out what really happened. Hate ends up poisoning your soul.
For believers, this is the time when the enemy takes advantage and brings in a state of great depression and agony and you end up being ineffective.
The enemy’s strategy to destroy your marriage goals.
His desire is to hook you up in a bad relationship to frustrate you and make you ineffective in serving the Lord with a whole heart and even from ever become the person you were meant to be. I personally experienced this and it is worse, trust me.
Affect doing this, he condemns you. condemnation is the greatest weapon in the enemy’s arsenal, and therefore he will frustrate you because you ended in a relationship that made you compromise.
Having a great vision is necessary but it’s not enough. Involving the Lord in every step is the key to a successful relationship that will lead to an honorable marriage. It is the will of the father to give you the best if only you trust in His leading. It takes the grace of God for a relationship to work, it’s not by our own effort. For God works in us both to will and to do His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13).
Always know that “anyone who thinks he stands should take heed of himself lest he falls.” (I Corinthians 10:12)