Can you marry a lady with a child?

Can you marry a lady with a child? If I may ask you, is it better to marry a lady with a child or marry a lady with no child, yet has aborted as many times as she has fornicated? The choice is yours!

Marrying a lady with a child is a risk the majority won’t desire to take. However, love demands something greater than just a sacrifice, and that is a choice. True love must be tested.

love is a choice

Love is a choice and not merely an emotion. Every choice has consequences, including love. It is easier to make a choice, however; we have no power over the consequences.

I believe that a good relationship should strike a balance between these three entities, which are logic, choice, and emotion. The three entities should work in perfect harmony resonating toward fulfilling the ultimate purpose of true love.

“You can never separate love from emotions, neither can you separate it from logic, there should be a good balance between these three entities.”

Joshua Mwangangi.

When you choose a life partner you have to accept and appreciate the consequences of being with that person. Love demands that we acknowledge that our partners have weaknesses and therefore we should learn to live with them with patience and great love.

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True love is a function of a choice and not emotions. It is easier to appreciate other people’s stories if only God Has worked on your side of the story. When you have come to appreciate His grace for you and end received His love and grace by faith.

When you have an issue in your soul, it starts to show up in a relationship, most often having a negative impact. Therefore, work on your motives before engaging in any relationship. Then, can you marry a lady with a kid.? And the answer is yes.

Remember that love is a choice.

Disadvantages of marrying a woman with kids or a divorcee

There is nothing wrong with marrying a woman with children, however, there are some challenges that might pop up in the relationship because of these children. And it is wise to be aware of this.

The kids might determine the future of the relationship, depending on how they respond and their age. Some children might decide to be unsupportive of the marriage, especially if they already have a good working relationship with their biological father(s).
It is risky and disadvantageous to the man. As a man, you are investing in a relationship and kids who you have no leverage over. In case the marriage fails, you have nothing to claim, hence your effort and investment prove to be in vain.
If the children are boys, be sure one day they will be interested in knowing their roots. This happened to me when I was a youth. I wanted to know who my biological father was and why he left. And so, I went to look for him and found him. The end was just a disaster.
It might take some time for the kids to adapt to this new union. However, this can be worked on. Depending on how these kids are raised, you have to be patient with them and empathetic when needed.
The kids might be traumatized from the previous marriage, due to divorce and domestic abuse, if there was any.
Did she from the start open up about the kids or you just found out when you had already made a commitment to her? Then she defrauded you! If you are not comfortable with the outcome, don’t marry her, you will regret it.
You should be aware that if there is a child involved, it is possible there are strings attached to the father of this kid. And this is something you will have to deal with.
It will take time to build trust between you and the child, depending on how you treat him/her.