What men should know about Christian women before marriage.
Women’s beauty is fleeting.
Women’s bodies change with time and soon they are no longer the curvy lady you previously met. However, their character and heart remain intact despite the physical changes taking place in their lives. Christian men should be psychologically prepared for the natural physical changes of their wives, this will help them cope with the process and not look down on their wives.
Due to these changes, the woman’s beautiful breasts will become saggy, her cheeks might fall, she might also end up with a bigger belly, and so many more visible physical changes. This might happen despite the woman’s effort to keep her body physically fit.
Some of these changes are inevitable as she has transitioned from being a single lady to the mother of your children. Therefore, none of these should ever make you as the man despise her, or change your perception concerning her. She is still the most beautiful woman you have always known and loved.
This should also act as a caution to all Christian single men. Don’t ever fall in love with a woman because of her physical attractiveness or for her looks, as this faded away.
Rather be in love with a woman that is submissive to the Lord Jesus, and a woman who will stand with you when the storms come. A woman who can nurture your children and support you in every aspect of your life. Remember, beauty is fleeting, and a woman is not defined by her physical appearance.
Proverbs 31:30
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Proverbs 6:25
Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes,
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She is a co-heir with you in Christ.
A Christian woman should not be treated like any other common woman, as she is also a co-heir with Christ Jesus. She is covered by the covenant of the blood of Jesus, and her allegiance is first to Christ, then to you as her husband. Therefore, as a responsible Christian single man, you have an obligation to be conformed to the image of Christ to meet the criteria of a faithful Christian husband. (Romans 8:29, Ephesians 5:25-28).
The Apostle Peter in his first letter to the church taught that the husband- referring to the Christian male husband- should be considerate, and patient with their wives as they are heirs of the eternal kingdom of God and His Christ.
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
She is fragile/ the weaker vessel.
Naturally, women tend to be sensitive, physically and spiritually. This might be perceived as a weakness, but that’s not true, it’s just the way God wired them for a profoundly unique purpose. This sensitivity is what makes women excellent at nurturing their children and protecting them.
Their nature also makes them attractive to men; as no man would wish to be with a woman who is hard as a stone and one who is not responsive.
For this reason, the Christian single should train himself to be patient and this virtue will one day save his marriage. The husband is expected to be considerate of his wife, understanding that she is the weaker vessel, hence, sensitive and fragile. Therefore, he has a responsibility to take care of her and protect her. If you ever mistreat her and she cries to her heavenly father, be sure your prayers will be hindered.
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
She is the image of God.
As a Christian man, you should never treat any woman as a subordinate human being. She is fashioned in the image of The Living God. (Genesis 1:27). Therefore, every time you despise and mistreat her, you are despising the image of God.
All women are beautiful in unique ways.
Your woman may not be the best cook in the world, but that doesn’t make her lesser attractive than other women. She might be best at nurturing the kids, managing the home finances, and other responsibilities. Therefore, no man should ever despise a woman because of her shortcomings.
See the best in her, appreciate her efforts and in love, and through good communication skills, help her learn other aspects she is not conversant with. Remember, love is the greatest.
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She is a multiplier (homemaker).
God has blessed every woman with the gift to multitask, incubate something and eventually multiply it. You entrust her with the house finances and as a consequence, she makes a home out of it. This is the reason women are referred to as homemakers.
As a Christian husband, you should create the right environment for her and trust her with your wealth. (Caution: I am describing a responsible Christian woman and not a gold-digger or slay queen). If you entrust your finances into the hands of a gold-digger or slay queen, she will make a Waldrop full of expensive, unnecessary clothes and makeup.
Women hate to be compared.
Let’s be honest, everyone hates to be compared to anyone. God has created us to be unique, and in our diversity to bring Him glory in every aspect of our being.
Women love to be appreciated.
Every woman wants to feel loved and appreciated, and Christian women are no exception. But how do you honor a Christian woman in a way that’s specific to her faith? It’s easy if you are willing, just begin with the little things, appreciate how she looks like, what she does, and her work with the kids, and correct her in great love.
They hate broken promises.
Every woman loves a man who stays true to his promises. Making promises during the dating process is easy, but it’s another thing to keep them when the going gets tough.
If a man promises to be faithful to his wife or to be a faithful Christian, he should honor that promise. It’s not always easy, but it’s what God would have him do. Let your words be in harmony with your action, this is integrity.
